Vídeo do autor, John Travis:
https://youtu.be/_XveMr54G_o
Livro disponivel na Amazon e em versão gratuita para kindle ou kindle app https://www.amazon.com.au/Why-Dads-Leave-Meryn-Callander-ebook/dp/B00AG6SWVC
https://youtu.be/_XveMr54G_o
Livro disponivel na Amazon e em versão gratuita para kindle ou kindle app https://www.amazon.com.au/Why-Dads-Leave-Meryn-Callander-ebook/dp/B00AG6SWVC
Versão resumida:
Key Points from: Why Dads Leave Insights and Resources for When Partners Become Parents* by Meryn G. Callander
Versão inicial, em PDF, com o nome "Why mans leave?":
www.marriageofsexandspirit.com/MSS_2Travis.pdf (copiar e colar no browser)
Website: https://www.whydadsleave.com
Do mesmo autor, destaco:
Myth: Daycare Is Harmless and Able to Meet the Needs of Infants and Young Children.
Myth: It is possible for both parents to have a full-time career and fully meet the needs of a young child.
E continua.......
Myth: The Newborn's Senses and Feelings Are not Well Developed
Myth: The Newborn Has no Sensation, Emotional Affect, or Ability to Feel Pain or Pleasure
Myth: Separating Mother and Newborn after Birth Is Harmless
Myth: Hospital Nurseries Offer Newborns a Safe Haven
Myth: Hospital Nurseries Protect Infants from Infection
Myth: A Child's Sleeping with Parents Should not Be Allowed
Myth: Fully Meeting An Infant's Needs, Sometimes Called Attachment Parenting, Is Impractical and Exhausting.
Myth: Fully Meeting an Infant's Needs Creates a Spoiled and Overly Dependent Child
Myth: Mothers Know Instinctively How to Breastfeed.
Myth: Formula Feeding Is Almost as Good as Breastfeeding
Myth: Weaning Before Age Two Is Natural and Normal
Myth: IQ Is the Chief Measure of a Child's Ability to Be Effective and Successful at School and in Adult Life
Myth: Children's Intellectual Abilities Are Independent of Their Ability to Give and Receive Love.
Myth: Learning, Thought, and Intelligence Is a Process of the Brain Alone.
Myth: Schools Are the Best Places for Children to Learn
Myth: Homeschoolers Don't Do as Well as School Children
Myth: Homeschoolers Don't Learn to Socializ
Myth: Children Are Innately Unsocial, Uncooperative, and Untrustworthy
Myth: Children Should Express only Positive Feelings
Myth: Punishments and Rewards Are Effective Ways of Reinforcing Desired Behaviors.
Myth: You Should Praise Your Child Every Day
Myth: Rewards Promote Learning
Myth: Punishments Teach Kids to Behave
Myth: Punishment and Praise Are Effective Ways to Raise Responsible Kids
Myth: ADD/ADHD Is a Medical or Psychological Disorder
Myth: Behavioral Disorders Are Safely Managed by Medications
Myth: ADD-Type Behaviors Are Best Managed by Behavior Modification
Myth: Treatment Programs for Behavioral Disorders Are Effective
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Along with the fact that we simply do not have the community, the village, the supportive social milieu that our indigenous sisters had, another major factor contributing to the exhaustion of parents is the fact that many of us have become accustomed to an incredible degree of freedom to pursue our own personal interests--from personal growth workshops and pursuits through furthering our education and career; and an extraordinarily high level of material comforts. Perhaps we can have all of these things, but we may need to do with a little less in some areas, for a limited time, if we are to provide our children with the care and attention that optimizes their emotional, cognitive, and social development. While all parents may not feel able and willing to devote a portion of their lives in this way to their children, it is important that we do not pretend that it makes no difference." John Travis
Myth: It is possible for both parents to have a full-time career and fully meet the needs of a young child.
E continua.......
Myth: The Newborn's Senses and Feelings Are not Well Developed
Myth: The Newborn Has no Sensation, Emotional Affect, or Ability to Feel Pain or Pleasure
Myth: Separating Mother and Newborn after Birth Is Harmless
Myth: Hospital Nurseries Offer Newborns a Safe Haven
Myth: Hospital Nurseries Protect Infants from Infection
Myth: A Child's Sleeping with Parents Should not Be Allowed
Myth: Fully Meeting An Infant's Needs, Sometimes Called Attachment Parenting, Is Impractical and Exhausting.
Myth: Fully Meeting an Infant's Needs Creates a Spoiled and Overly Dependent Child
Myth: Mothers Know Instinctively How to Breastfeed.
Myth: Formula Feeding Is Almost as Good as Breastfeeding
Myth: Weaning Before Age Two Is Natural and Normal
Myth: IQ Is the Chief Measure of a Child's Ability to Be Effective and Successful at School and in Adult Life
Myth: Children's Intellectual Abilities Are Independent of Their Ability to Give and Receive Love.
Myth: Learning, Thought, and Intelligence Is a Process of the Brain Alone.
Myth: Schools Are the Best Places for Children to Learn
Myth: Homeschoolers Don't Do as Well as School Children
Myth: Homeschoolers Don't Learn to Socializ
Myth: Children Are Innately Unsocial, Uncooperative, and Untrustworthy
Myth: Children Should Express only Positive Feelings
Myth: Punishments and Rewards Are Effective Ways of Reinforcing Desired Behaviors.
Myth: You Should Praise Your Child Every Day
Myth: Rewards Promote Learning
Myth: Punishments Teach Kids to Behave
Myth: Punishment and Praise Are Effective Ways to Raise Responsible Kids
Myth: ADD/ADHD Is a Medical or Psychological Disorder
Myth: Behavioral Disorders Are Safely Managed by Medications
Myth: ADD-Type Behaviors Are Best Managed by Behavior Modification
Myth: Treatment Programs for Behavioral Disorders Are Effective
"
Along with the fact that we simply do not have the community, the village, the supportive social milieu that our indigenous sisters had, another major factor contributing to the exhaustion of parents is the fact that many of us have become accustomed to an incredible degree of freedom to pursue our own personal interests--from personal growth workshops and pursuits through furthering our education and career; and an extraordinarily high level of material comforts. Perhaps we can have all of these things, but we may need to do with a little less in some areas, for a limited time, if we are to provide our children with the care and attention that optimizes their emotional, cognitive, and social development. While all parents may not feel able and willing to devote a portion of their lives in this way to their children, it is important that we do not pretend that it makes no difference." John Travis
Fantástico! Ainda não li tudo mas concordo em absoluto! Acerca do conforto material que nos rodeia acredito que nos mata, não só fisicamente (é só observar um qualquer documentário em que homens de 50 anos têm um corpo de 20 anos e uma destreza e força brutal e as mulheres, mesmo franzinas, parecem autênticas amazonas) como a nível mental e emocional. Penso que todas as mulheres deveriam ler o que partilhas para depois mostrarem aos companheiros.
ReplyDeleteMuito obrigada pela partilha! :)
Flor de Lima, vim reler a frase (porque são vários os dias em que maldigo a vida pelo conforto material que não tenho) e encontrei este teu comentário. Apesar de estar 100% segura de que temos mais do que necessitamos e de que as sociedades modernas (ou pós-modernas ou hipermodernas ou o que lhes queiram chamar) estão assentes em princípios e práticas que não são o garante do bem estar, da felicidade e nem sequer da perpetuação da espécie, continuo a esquecer o essencial e a ter dias tristes e de angústia pois, muitas vezes, por não conseguir ter, não sei o que sou. Ainda bem que, de vez em quando, venho aqui ler o que partilho. Obrigada por não deixares que me sinta sozinha :)
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