O NÃO é o caminho mais fácil, o caminho em que eu mesmo caio sempre que estou mais cansada, triste, preocupada.
O caminho mais consciencioso mas mais verdadeiro é o de dizer sim sempre, dizer sim de formas inventivas mesmo quando a resposta intrínseca é não.
O caminho da cura e da verdade é dizer um SIM que permita responder às necessidades das crianças e dos adultos adultos envolvidos ao mesmo tempo que se respeitam as regras e normas sociais.
É também o caminho mais difícil, mais demorado, que exige mais de nós mas é um caminho que nos ajuda a crescer.
Dizer sim, meu filho "vamos comprar esse carro de corrida, um dia, vamos pensar em formas de poupar dinheiro para um dia o comprarmos".
Para quê matar os sonhos, desejos e capacidade de escolha das nossas crianças? Para quando crescerem passarem o seu tempo a "curar a criança interior" a construir a sua auto-estima?
Numa relação parental baseada no controlo, o não prevalece. Numa relação parental baseada no respeito às questões difíceis e adversidades respondemos com a a questão "porque não?" e construímos a resposta a partir daí.
Lamento muito que os adultos de hoje estejam tão feridos pelos "nãos da vida" que não consigam ver que, para além do NÂO, existe a abundância e a alegria do SIM e do AMOR INCONDICIONAL
O milagre somos nós!!
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A grande Mentira
Do you have "control issues"?
The good news is that being a "controller" is a
symptom of being intelligent, creative, and
passionate... AND duped into believing the Big Lie
of our culture: *conditionality*
The Big Lie is that you can't be happy or feel worthy
except under certain conditions. If you've bought
into it, then naturally you will use your personal
strengths to try and control those conditions.
For example, if you believe your children have to
behave a certain way in order for you to feel good
(about them or about yourself), then of course you
will try to control their behavior.
Once you realize the purpose of the Big Lie -- to
control *you* -- you'll stop believing it.
Practicing the Art of Unconditionality* dissolves the
Big Lie (and the "need" to control conditions) by
affirming the Ultimate Truth: that you have the
power to focus your mind in ways that feel good...
under *any* conditions.
Try it!
http://dailygroove.net/big-lie
* See also: What Is 'Unconditionality'? at
www.scottnoelle.com/parenting/unconditional.htm
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The good news is that being a "controller" is a
symptom of being intelligent, creative, and
passionate... AND duped into believing the Big Lie
of our culture: *conditionality*
The Big Lie is that you can't be happy or feel worthy
except under certain conditions. If you've bought
into it, then naturally you will use your personal
strengths to try and control those conditions.
For example, if you believe your children have to
behave a certain way in order for you to feel good
(about them or about yourself), then of course you
will try to control their behavior.
Once you realize the purpose of the Big Lie -- to
control *you* -- you'll stop believing it.
Practicing the Art of Unconditionality* dissolves the
Big Lie (and the "need" to control conditions) by
affirming the Ultimate Truth: that you have the
power to focus your mind in ways that feel good...
under *any* conditions.
Try it!
http://dailygroove.net/big-lie
* See also: What Is 'Unconditionality'? at
www.scottnoelle.com/parenting/unconditional.htm
Feel free to forward this message to your friends!
(Please include this paragraph and everything above.)
Copyright (c) 2010 by Scott Noelle
_____________________________________________________
"Inspiration & Coaching for Progressive Parents"
http://www.ScottNoelle.com
http://www.EnjoyParenting.com
PO Box 19901
Portland, OR 97280
USA
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